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Be Mindful of American Manners

So, I was watching a Youtube video months ago about some of things a Youtuber noticed when she moved to South Korea. She mentioned they don’t keep the door open for you even if you’re directly behind them and how she thought they were rude at first, so I thought one day I need to make a post about manners in the US. And here’s the post!!!!

  • Keep the door open
    •        This is important!!! Look behind you when you’re going through a door. If you let it slam in front of anyone, you will get a dirty look or hear someone say you’re rude if they’re brave (my grandma). Hopefully, the person behind you just keeps it all in their head. Just make sure to keep the door open if they’re close behind, because if you hold the door and the person is 30 meters (10 feet) behind you then the person will feel forced to run to the door. However, that’s better than not keeping it open.
  • Say bless you 
    • So, you can get away with not saying bless you, if you’re in a crowded place and a stranger sneezes. But the moment you are talking with someone whether they’re a friend or not. You better say bless you when they sneeze. When I’ve forgotten to say or didn’t hear a friend sneeze, they’ll say, “You’re not going to tell me bless you? :(” People really appreciate it if you tell them this. But it’s not a deal breaker.
  • Cover nose and mouth
    • Please, don’t spread your germs around. People will look at you with disgust if you don’t cover you mouth when you cough or sneeze. We don’t wear masks so we must cover our mouths. Don’t do it with your hands but on the inside of your arm/sleeve.
  • No slurping/smacking
    • I know in other countries it’s a sign that the food is deeeelicieuuuxx but here to make noises while eating is very disturbing to others (my pet peeve). However, I have noticed since I moved to the south that people here are most likely to smack and not very many people are bothered by it. There’s always at least 1/2 smackers in the room. In other US regions I’ve been to this is a big NO! Don’t do it.
  • Don’t interrupt others conversation (age doesn’t matter)
    • Don’t interrupt others while there’re speaking, even if you’re older. It is considered rude! There’s not a strong hierarchy based off age so pretty much everyone is on equal grounds. So you can’t just do whatever you want because you’re older. If you must interrupt someone make sure you say, “Excuse me, I have something to say.” It’s rude to talk over people.
  • Give seats to elders
    • This isn’t a huge no-no, but its just about showing some respect. I’ve seen people not do it and no one thinks nothing of it or someone gets offended.
  • Age isn’t too serious
    • Most people are on equal grounds when it comes to age differences. We don’t really have polite forms like in French or Korean. However, in the south you will hear people say, “Ma’am and Sir”. These are polite words you say to people who are older than you to show respect. For instance, if an older person says something. Instead of saying, “What did you say?” you say’ll “Ma’am? Sir?”. I wasn’t raised in the south, so I usually say the first one, which some people have been offended by. Which I know understand but I still don’ say it. It seems too weird for me. Just respectful towards everyone.
  • Bump into someone say, “excuse me”
    • When you run into someone, make sure you say excuse me especially if it didn’t just brush each other shoulders, unless you in New York (NY), say excuse me. Cities here aren’t as crowded and are very roomy where you hardly are ever breathing down someone else’s neck. If you don’t say it outside a huuuuggge city, like NY, then people will say, “excuse you!” if you’re at fault.

Here are just some of the main ones I could think of. If there’s anymore don’t be scared to comment below! 🙂