Posted in american, usa

Labor Day (American Holiday)

So today is Labor Day and it’s celebrated every first Monday of September. Which means, people who work white collar jobs got off, i.e managers in Wall Street, Google,FedEx, IBM, or anything job dealing with administrative work. Have the day off to celebrate or just relax.   However, blue collar workers, i.e waiters,baristas, anything customer service related, janitors, or any job that deals with manual labor, must work on this day. Ironically, this day was meant for blue collar workers, however like most things the wealthier people won and made it about them having a break.

Also, Labor Day signals that fall is here and don’t wear white. But I still wear white and rock it!

Honestly, Labor Day isn’t that big. People in general don’t celebrate it like they do Halloween, Thanksgiving, or Christmas. You have some people who just want to party no matter what and others just sit at home on this smaller holiday. However, since I’m a blue collar worker, I have to work today. Yipee (sarcastically)!!!!!

Thanks for reading!!! I really do appreciate it!!!


Posted in american, usa

Barbecue in Memphis

If you didn’t know Memphis is known for their barbecue!!! There’s never a barbecue place too far away. If you’re in Memphis and want some bbq check out the list below.

I have not tried all these places due to the fact I don’t like eating pork too often and some of these places mostly serve pork but I have tried a couple.



This place is very popular!!! However, recently I’ve heard that it doesn’t taste like it use to by many people. It’s located in downtown Memphis.

Central Ave

Ok, so I have somewhat ate their food. My boyfriend was running a 5k and they donated little small bbq sandwiches to the racers and families after the ran. Personally, it wasn’t what I expected to taste. Since I always see this place packed or close to it with people always standing in line. It was average tasting to say in the nicest way possible. But hey!!! You might like it!!! So try it if you’re in Midtown in the Cooper Area.



So, this one is popular as well with having 2 locations in Memphis (Midtown and Cordova). I would say this place might good for big parties since they have family sized meals.

One & Only

Now this place right here is DELICIOUS!!! The sauce is so good! I’ve sent many people here and I haven’t heard a complaint about it yet! Like seriously!! I would definitely recommend. It’s also in Midtown Memphis.

Germantown Commissary

My manager swears by this place!!!! It’s her favorite and she always sends people here. She hasn’t heard any negative feedback from them as well. This place is located in East Memphis.

If you’re looking for a place that’s not a restaurant and want to eat bbq on the go then check out these places.

Tops Bar-b-q


In my opinion this place was so gross. If you like extremely tangy bbq sauces then this is the place for you. If you don’t then run away! It just didn’t suit my taste at all.

Big Bills BBQ

Ok, so this place is pretty good but not as good as it use to be. I hope my grandma doesn’t read this because this is her husband’s brother’s place. Over the years it seems the workers have been stingy with how much sauce they put on the meat.


(None of these photos belong to me google images)


Thanks for reading once again!!! And remember if you come to Memphis try one of these places. 🙂


Posted in american, usa

Individualism in America

Being an individual is a big thing! A closed mouth doesn’t get fed. This means if you don’t speak and make yourself known you won’t be noticed or given opportunities. So, it’s all about standing out from the crowd.

Our language shows this. I don’t know any language were “I” is capitalized in a middle of a sentence. People who don’t follow trends or are trendsetters (especially) tend to be praised.  A lot of people think they’re unique even if they’re not just because they put their own spin to a trend that a lot of people but not the majority are doing. So you’ll see people doing their own thing or not tending to care what other’s think of them. Or that’s what it looks from the outside.

Standing from the crowd is a big thing here. That’s why many people try to be trendsetters but it doesn’t always work out that way.  Not only that but people are always creating new things or improving what’s already been created because capitalism ($$$) is a great incentive for people to think.

As well as we can be pretty selfish overall. Especially, against other countries. It seems that they are more willing to share or maybe that’s from the outside. This of course is my opinion of the U.S in general.

Overall, I would say we are a pretty individualistic country.  So being yourself isn’t so bad here.


Posted in american

Personalities of the US

Ok, so if you travel around the US you will realize every area has it’s own culture. Which is why you can be a tourist as an American. There social rules that only people in that area or culture know about.

The US in the North is different from the West as well the South and East coast.

You not only have to be prepared for the weather but people’s mindsets as well. This is stereotypical view of the U.S sections.


People tend to be seen as living on a farm with their families raising chickens and cattle all day. They are seen as people who love the country and farming. They don’t do much as because they live around a bunch of crops and their houses are miles away from their neighbors.

West Coast:

Preppy and overly happy people who love the outdoors, i.e surfing, hiking. The are into the healthy way of living and are very chill. Will definitely here “like” and “omg” come out there mouths a lot! Can be seen as bimbos from outsiders.

East Coast

Rough, rude, and blunt people. They tell it like it is. They are city dwellers so they have to be like this to get through a huge crowd. They aren’t known for their hospitality but for all the buildings and skyscrapers they have that light up the night sky.


This is where southern hospitality is at. Seen as caring and sweet people that are easy to talk to. They have a lot of soul and you can tell by the cooking and music created down in the south. However, those sweet smiles and talk badly about you once you leave the room. Very religious people. The Bible belt is this area.

These are some of the stereotypes that people think of when thinking about these sections of the US. Many American experience culture shock when visiting other areas. Because eah section has its own personality.

Thanks for reading once again!!! 🙂

Posted in american, usa

Is it Safe being a Woman in the US?

Ummm No!!!! But as a woman where are you truly safe? Sexism is every where and it varies from place to place.

Of course men are preferred over women. They are treated much more fairly. Double standards is a real thing here despite how some women talk about women in other countries being oppressed as if it never happens here.

Statistically  woman are harassed the most when they’re around 12 years old here. That’s when it begins and we are forced as women to cover up despite old creepy men should know better than to oogling and touching a minor.

As in most countries women can go out at night but the darker you stay out the more dangerous it gets. Women are shot, raped, and beaten for telling men simply No to their advances even in daylight. To cut to the chase America is a Patriarch society. And in this society women are sexualized at all ages. Catcalling can be very uncomfortable and sometimes dangerous when you have a stranger that thinks they can put their hands on you. Women do get groped and harassed in crowded places, i.e subway.

Don’t let the American Feminist make you believe that only our pockets are only effected in this world and not our minds and bodies. Of course, how you are treated as woman also depends on your race. Some things might come up that “relates” to your race. Some guys will try to flirt with you calling you an Egyptian Queen (Black), Me love you long time (Asian), calling you Pocahontas (Native American) and other such things that aren’t really compliments.

Basically don’t do what you wouldn’t do at home.  I don’t write this stuff to scare but to make you aware of what type of environment you’re getting yourself into and what you will hear on the news. If you take the safety precautions you take at home you should be alright.  

Women really aren’t that safe. So do keep some pepper spray with you or taser. Better yet carry around both. Stay with a group at night. Have fun! It’s not all that bad. There some plus sides like free entry to clubs.

Hope this was informative and thanks for taking the time to read :)))

Posted in Uncategorized

Is America Truly a Melting Pot?

If you ask the average American they might just say yes. If you ask me Hell No! It’s more like water and vinegar trying to mix together! Seriously! Assimilation, Assimilation is the key to survival! If you stay here long enough you will start to understand.

If people think you eat weird stuff and you’re not around a lot of people that are similiar to you it can tear you down and next thing you know you’re not eating what everyone thinks is weird. You’re eating a burger and french fries too!

America has sooo many race relation problems and it isn’t just white and black. It’s white people vs asians vs chicanos vs indians vs blacks vs native americans vs asians vs blacks vs etc. You get the gist. But I will say this White people are at the top of totem when it comes to race. They aren’t called European Americans just Americans. And everyone has to assimilate to the white culture. So no more ox tails, kimchi, hot and sour soup, curry, and other stuff. I’m just kidding you can definitely eat it but you will get asked,” what’s that?” And if they have eaten whatever you’re eating it’s the watered down American version. Long story short some people will look at you weird trust me I know.

Usually though you don’t have to worry about what you eat unless you’re a kid. Kids can be cruel.

When it comes to fashion, if it’s not westernized, age isn’t a boundary and people will judge you. If I haven’t given my race away already because I like to be neutral but whatever. I wear my daishiki and people look at me like I’m an alien. I’m use to being stared at but I get more stares since I’m wearing African clothing (I don’t think they wear daishiki as often as people think). Let me tell you, if you’re Indian or Middle Eastern you get lumped together, I know Indians are Asians but that disappears in America. Ok, so any headwraps worn you will be seen as a terrorist a.k.a ISIS. I’m serious! I’ve heard it with my own ears and that’s why people don’t like me at work because I shut them down about it. You not going to talk about other people like that own my watch, just saying.  People don’t care about being ignorant at times. Stereotyping can harm you not the other person. 

Asians are lumped as being Chinese or whatever ethnicity suits that person. If that person is talking about sushi and  you’re Chinese they will still assume you grew up eating it at home despite not being Japanese and telling them you’re Chinese. This goes for all East Asians. I don’t know what happens with Asians that aren’t East Asian other some people will say you’re not really Asian. :/ . Native Americans just don’t “exist anymore” and people talk about them like they’re extinct.

If you’re talking in another language just enjoying your day, some people hate it! I’ve heard it with my own ears! That’s why I got like 3 friends, I will call you out. The languages I hear the most hate or ridicule from are Spanish, Arabic, and languages from India,Africa, and Asia. Basically, if you’re brown speaking your native tongue, this is a no no. People don’t see it as sexy like they do French or Italian. Or a language to respect like German, you get my gist ;). People have even written about it before. People will sometimes say “speak English this is America or go back home” or “can you speak English”(disrespectfully)? The latter  happens with my boyfriend at times. So much for being a melting pot right?

I can go on and on about race relations but you can google it, look up the news to see how it is overall. So I won’t go into further details.

If you read my other posts, there’s some hint hints to not actually being a melting pot. I would definitely say America is the land of opportunity. Because if you can play the game right you can make some money!

Of course, you will meet great people who will accept you as you are. So don’t accept people that treat you like trash. However, if you are treated unfairly at least you won’t be surprised. So, do make friends, speak your language, wear clothes that you’re comfortable with, and just have fun being you! At the end of the day people will judge you regardless, so be comfortable while the haters are wasting their time talking.

I hope you enjoyed reading this  :). And thanks for sparing 5 minutes of your day reading my post!

I truly appreciate it!